One of the IFO co-founders, Jennifer Morris, and myself were (I guess you could say) insulted on YouTube. Trolls searching for videos to stir up drama watched our videos and called each of us a ‘Mud Shark’. When I read that I literally giggled. What a silly name! I had never heard that before. I had to Google it to figure out what the poster was trying to say to me.
From Urban Dictionary-
A mud shark is any white girl who, due to peculiarities in her psyche, dates only black men. There are two distinct types of mud sharks:
Type I Mud Sharks (the most common) are fat girls with little or no education who, rather than dating a white guy from the bottom of the heap, go for a mid range or low-end black man.
Type II Mud Sharks (less common) are good-looking girls (usually blonde) who are trying to make a statement by dating a black man. Usually type II’s are trying to make daddy mad.
I am choosing this specific one definition to share because all the others listed were, let’s say, distasteful. There are even two well defined sub-categories to this definition. Who knew?!
Besides the Urban Dictionary, I found a song by Frank Zappa that is about a dance move, a bizarre urban legend about Led Zeppelin, and what looks to be a great children’s story about a young mystery solver. I will just assume the person that commented on my video was not recommending children’s literature.
I look at the definition of the 2 types of ‘Mud sharks” and instantly picture who would was the author of the definition or who uses this term in everyday conversations. I decided that it is only fair that I analyze these individuals in terms they can understand.
“If you do not approve, do not watch the video, HATER.”
From Urban Dictionary-
A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. A person who feels anger and/or jealousy for someone who has succeeded in something they have worked for. A being who speaks badly,and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a successful person.
Many times I have calmly just asked the person spewing garbage, ‘What were you hoping as my response?’ If they are posting to see who they can piss off, what was the desired reaction? Some people have written back to me stating that I needed to know that I am considered tainted or unclean and that no white man will ever want me now.
How far did they think this exchange through? If you are watching a video of my amazing wedding to my husband, why would you think I was worried about that? And if for some reason, I am single in the future, any man, of any race that thinks I am tainted probably is not on my social calendar. Did you think all men share your opinions? You just cannot be THAT stupid.
This is how I have dealt with the negativity, staring, and name calling. I have said it before. The judgement, comments and stares are much more about the other person than about me. I do not absorb it, carry it around as a chip on my shoulder, and become defensive. They see a loving, committed couple and a beautiful, diverse family. If they had in their life what they see, they would smile and be happy to see a reflection of themselves.
To the haters, who’s blood boils when they see us, for further reference, the insult of “Mud Shark” makes me giggle like a 6 year old girl who just hear their parent say ‘butt’ in a conversation. Just sayin’
Mudshark is the go-to guy for any mysteries that need solving. Lost your shoe? Can’t find your homework? Ask Mudshark. That is, until the Psychic Parrot takes up residence in the school library and threatens to overturn Mudshark’s position as the guy who knows all the answers. The word in school is that the parrot can out-think Mudshark. And right now, the school needs someone who’s good at solving problems. There’s an escaped gerbil running rampant, an emergency in the faculty restroom, and all the erasers are disappearing from the classrooms.
When Mudshark solves the mystery of who’s stealing the erasers, he discovers the culprit has the best of intentions. Now he has to think of a way to prevent the Psychic Parrot from revealing the eraser-thief’s identity. With a bit of misdirection and a lot of quick thinking, Mudshark restores order to the chaos . . . just for the moment.
Thanks Laura!!