Hi my name is Lorrie. I am 44 yrs old and live in northern California with my wonderful husband Chris and my 17 year old son, Brian. I also have a daughter who is 20, attends college and lives away from home. What an accomplishment THAT has been!…for both she and I! Both of my children are Filipino and white. I was married to their father, who is Filipino, for 16 years. The kids are more culturally white American, as their father was born in this country and never made much of a priority to embrace his parent’s culture. Other than food, not much has been passed down to them regarding their Filipino heritage. However, I can’t deny….they don’t look like their mama much. I remember once when my daughter was a baby, being asked by the receptionist at the dentist’s office if she was adopted. When I told her no (and probably acted a little shocked) she told me she thought maybe my daughter was adopted “because people like to adopt those Korean babies.”
I often was asked about my children…..”what are they?” The kids tell me now that they are older, people often mistake them for being Hispanic. Anyway, they are great kids. My daughter is studying communications and marketing in college and is growing into such a fine woman. I am so proud of her. Whoooo….it was hit or miss whether either of us was gonna make it through her senior year without killing the other, but we made it! My son is taking it easy on me this year as a senior (knock on wood!). He is going to be joining the Air Force when he graduates. Even though it makes me extremely worried, it’s something he’s been talking about wanting to do for years. Whatever he chooses, I know I will be very proud of him. He has a heart and integrity that makes my soul smile.
My husband, Chris, and I have been married a short 2 1/2 years. He is my soul mate, as cliche as it sounds. To me, it was a miracle to find this kind of love at this time in my life. Chris is black. I have a very multicultural family, so my family is very accepting of our relationship, as is his. Chris is the best step-dad to my kids and they love him. We have no issues with race within the sanctuary of our home. Of course, it’s not always like that outside in the world. For the most part, we have little problems where we live, near San Francisco. However, we have traveled a few times to see family in small town mid-west and the south and I have been disturbed by our treatment there. Racism has done so much harm to our country and it continues, maybe not as blatant, but it’s still there, much to the disbelief of those who think we now live in a post-racial America.
I am so happy to meet others with interracial marriages/families. I look forward to making some good friends!
You story is wonderful. I am a blk woman married to a white man for so to be 26 years and we have been together for 30…..a soul mate can come in any color.
May God bless you and him.
I am so sorry, I been so focus on Laura’s family that i have complete ingored the rest of the feature families, and for that i am sorry. I have just read your family’s profile and once more i am truly touch, if i could give you an award if would say H.O.H. meaning hero of humanity. You Lorrie see the person within by judging with your heart and not your eyes, once more i am humble, people say that they are christians, only verbally you Lorrie live it by allowing your light to shine, Your husband is not a lucky man, he is a bless man cause he is bless to have met you and bless to have married you. Why you ask cause luck does not exist in the kingdom of heaven, the timing of you two meeting was indeed bless, you two have taught me a lesson the heart sees people not colors, by learning to love oneself fearlessly, you can then love others openly, with no fear, once more let me say thank you.
Your story and family are beautiful! As a white woman married to a black man, together for almost 23 years, with 5 children, and 2 grandchildren….I have to agree with the woman above….. a soul mate CAN come in any color. :)
Thank you everyone for your kind words.
David, it is I who is the blessed one. I am so blessed that my husband chooses me, everyday.
Mrs. Hinton, i am so glad that you read my reply, and i am honor that you response as quickly as you did, but i feel i need to limit my replies, why you may ask, to be honest i feel as if i offend someone from one of the original families, and if i did i am truly sorry i did not mean to invade on their privacy, so to make certain that it will not happen again i will be limiting my replies. Mrs.Hinton i do wish you and your family a bless life, according to your reply you have that, i hope for myself that the lord will bless me with a love that deep and as pure as the driven snow, you and your husband cherish each other, this is loving fearlessly. When you can love out in the open regardless of what the world may say, until my next reply, i’ll be taking my leave for now, my father told me long ago a great guest is one who never over stay their welcome, enjoy the blessings that the lord has bestow upon you, for bless you are and bless you shall remain. Goodbye.
I have a question, please give me a an answer. My question is do you think or feel that marriage is a culture identity? if you have an answer could you email it to me please, this is for my college class dealing with social studies. my email is belovedmyers@hotmail.com thank you.
I MUST TELL YOU BOTH HOW HAPPY YOUR LOVE MAKES ME. I ,MYSELF WAS MARRIED FOR 15YRS,TO A WOULDERFUL WHITE GENTLEMAN,AND KNOW FIRST HAND ALL THE THINGS ONE FACES IN SUCH A RELATIONSHIP,MAKES ME PROUD TO SEE HOW INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE GROWING.
THE REASON FOR MY REPLY IS TWO-FOLD, FIRST; TO EXPRESS MY POSTIVE FEELINGS ABOUT YOUT UNION,AND SECOND; TO LET YOU KNOW HOW I’M SUPPORTING AND CHANGING THE VIEW OF INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS IN MY OWN LITTLE WAY.
I HAVE A SERIOUS FACEBOOK PAGE THAT CELEABRATES INTERRACIAL
COUPLES,( facebook.com / lalaceyloves ) I ALSO HAVE A LOCAL SUPPORT GROUP
CALLED “Shades of Grey”, I WOULD LOVE IT IF YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND WOULD LOOK AT THE PAGE AND JOIN THE MANY COUPLE THERE TO START A NATIONAL SUPPORT NETWORK ,IS MY GOAL ! SO DO THAT A LOOK !
AND BY THE WAY THE REASON I’M USING ALL CAPS IS ,I LOST MY READING GLASSES AND I NEED TO SEE WHAT I’M TYPING (SMILE)
Hi Lacy, thanks for the comments! I just saw this. Sorry it took me so long to see your comment. :)